A lot has happened since we last blogged. Yesterday, we moved to Kansas City. Trent’s job transferred us.
I can’t even tell you how upset I am that we left Topeka before the standalone Chick-Fil-A was finished. This is a completely unfair situation. But we press on.
I admit, I was a little surprised how hard it was the past couple weeks to say goodbyes. Topeka kind of sucks sometimes, but maybe I’m a little more attached to that place that I anticipated. I got to thinking, if it didn’t HURT to leave, maybe I didn’t live the past 3 years right.
I’ve learned that my default to situations in which I have to feel sad is usually just to avoid it. Like straight up pretend it’s not happening. It’s a really mature way to handle things. Poof -gone.
What I lose when I do that is an opportunity to show gratitude.
Instead of running, I want to tell some of those who have impacted me in Topeka what you mean to me. It’s too good an opportunity to waste.
In no particular order…
You reached out to me before anyone else did. You invited me into your home every week, and taught me how to pray intentionally and consistently. You cared for me through 4 different jobs, and some of my darkest days. If I’m ever in need, you are the first to not just ask, but ACT. You knew the potential of us leaving Topeka but it never stopped you from befriending me. I mean it when I say that I have never had a friend who loved me so consistently -you are dependable and loyal. I look up to the incredible woman you have become through having Bennett, and I admire your fearless ability to lead and administrate. You are so good for me that I cried hardest thinking of how you’ve impacted me. I leave Topeka a better person because of you.
You are the friend I always wanted, but never had. Trent can tell you, I have never had a friend like you! We can relate on so many levels -clothes, home decor, food 🙂 You spoke truth to me when I needed boundaries with others, but didn’t know how to set them. You intentionally love me after crap situations -you took me to get a pedicure when I got laid off from my job. You are the friend I go to when I need validation for my feelings -you are so good at supporting those that you love. I just enjoy being around you. You will forever remind me of McAllister’s Peach Tea, stacked bracelets and Arturo Chiang boots.
It’s safe to say that you probably know Trent and my relationship better than anyone. You lived with us for more than a year of the 3 we lived there. One of the best words to describe you is humble because of your ability to listen and learn from others. I’m always so impressed with your study habits -I have no idea how you memorize vocabulary words while the TV is on. You’re basically a genius! I don’t ever feel like I have to entertain you for you to be content. It makes you such an easy person to be around. You stick by your friends and family and give up your time and energy for others. There is not a day that goes by that you are not serving someone in some way. You have the gift of joy -even if your day is full of drama, you can find a way to laugh about something at the drop of a hat. I love your sense of humor -there’s so many inside jokes between me, you and Trent that literally no one else will ever understand. I’ll miss seeing you every day 🙁
When I picture my future life, I hope it looks like yours. I hope I have 4 kids and handle it so gracefully and fearlessly as you have. I also hope I physically look like you after 4 kids…how is that possible!? 🙂 You are gifted with wisdom -there’s more times than I can count that you have known exactly what to tell me at exactly the right time. You have always made me feel so valued. I look up to your abilities to lead and influence others so naturally. Although I never said it, I feel like you were my mentor.
You are one of the most encouraging people I have ever met. You are so good at using your words to bring others up, and carry yourself in such a gentle, humble way. We took a long walk with Forest once, where you shared with me your desire to do Noonday. Look at you now 🙂 I love your entrepreneurial spirit and your passion for the vulnerable. You don’t just say that it’s important to love the vulnerable, you live it. The world needs more people like you.
You aren’t even in Topeka anymore, but I felt you should be included 🙂 I’m supposed to be your mentor, but you have been mine in so many ways. You showed me how to not be afraid to out-love. Your life is a picture of the gospel in the way you live and love others, and make them feel important. You can laugh at anything. Even inappropriate things, which I too think are funny. You are gifted with leadership, joy and a unique ability to relate to anyone and everyone. You are better at maintaining meaningful relationships than anyone I’ve ever met. I’m confident we will be friends for life.
When we found out my mom had cancer, you asked if you could help by making our YoungLife kids food every Wednesday. You took on that role like a boss, coordinating others to help, but making a LOT of the food yourself! I am so thankful that I got to witness how to practically love someone in a time of need. I admire your initiative to serve, and loving me through it.
You spoke truth and wisdom to me about how scripture can transform my life. God used you to re-arrange my priorities -you are a true friend for this! Thanks for being the go-to reservation setter and coordinating group get togethers 🙂 I love that you consistently open up your home and invite others in. In fact, I think it was your home where we first met!
You and Kyle were literally our only mutual connection when we moved to Topeka. Thank you for being a connector, and introducing me to so many people right off the bat! You and Kyle made our transition to Topeka SO much easier!
I’ve always admired your ability to make the gospel easy to understand, even through curriculum like your Mean Girls Study 🙂 You are consistent in the the way you’ve mentored your high schoolers and love them. Looking forward to our double dates in the future!
Pretty sure like 75% of our time together was spent over a glass of wine. The other, playing volleyball. No matter what we are doing, I know that every time I’m with you, I have so much fun! You make life enjoyable. I admire your ability to work a job that is sometimes demanding, and excelling in it. You don’t back down from a challenge, whether in work or the volleyball court!
I loved working with you at the station, but have LOVED to see you follow your passion as a business owner! I admire your abilities to coordinate weddings, and design such beautiful paper products. You are a natural influencer, and others are drawn to you because of it. Even more than what you do, I admire the way that you treat people. You are kind and thoughtful -I know this is what makes you so good with people on their wedding day. You consistently make others feel that they are heard and understood. Myself included!
I am thankful for all of you, and others not listed! Visit me in KC 🙂